Got engaged this Xmas? 5 most important things to do next

Got engaged this Xmas? 5 most important things to do next

Just got engaged?

engaged to be married

Congratulations!  The Xmas break is an amazing time for couples, it’s time for family to get together and celebrate.  So, not surprisingly, it’s also a very popular time for people to get engaged.  I should know, this is when my fab wife Helen and I got engaged!  However, it’s all too easy in all the Xmas hustle and bustle for someone who has just got engaged to get their priorities slightly wrong.  

Expert help and advice

After all, this is the first time you will start planning something as big as a wedding.  So, to help, I have a few suggestions based on my experience of about 50 weddings each year.


Here are 5 most important things to do once you have just got engaged:

1: Tell everyone!  

Chances are you told all your close family and friends over Christmas.  This is the time to let everyone you know that you are engaged to be married.  You may even want to plan an engagement party. This is a great time of the year to do so as most venues and suppliers are not heavily booked at this time, and fees are much less.

2: Set a date for the wedding.  

Do you want a long engagement, or a short engagement? Think about what time of the year you would both love to get married.  A spring wedding allows you to celebrate when life returns to our beautiful countryside. Flowers are everywhere, it’s the start of the seasons really.  It’s not too hot, and not too cold.  A summer wedding gives you more chances of guaranteeing glorious weather. But it could be a little too hot like most of June and July 2018!, If you get hay fever, it’s best to think about a different time of the year.  An autumn wedding is full of warm cosiness.  Autumnal smells, the cruch of leaves underfoot… There are s many fabulous ideas to be used for theming.  A winter wedding is festive and spectacular – just imagine your wedding photos if it snows!  It’s a magical family time for many people.

3: Book the registrars and the venue.  

Think about which kind of venue you want for your wedding, and set a budget.  Maybe you want a luxury hotel, a Royal Historic Palace, a rustic barn, or a country house?  Or perhaps a marquee in a relative’s garden, a village hall, a golf club, a woodland or beach venue, or even a pub?  You may wish to have a religious service in a church, a civil ceremony, either at a venue, or in a Register Office. Or, why not use a great celebrant to exchange vows in a woodland, a beach or a field for a very personal ceremony? 

Sometimes, less is more.  If your budget will not allow a big wedding in a fancy venue, how about hiring a village hall and getting a specialist to decorate it?  This makes for a fabulous celebration whilst saving a fortune.  You can then prioritise and have, for example, a better photographer or catering company, or more guests.  Make a shortlist, and find out what the experience is like with each.  What are the facilities and costs, what is included? Read through the terms and conditions, read reviews from past clients etc… Once you have shortlisted and researched your venues, book your favourite.  At this time of the year, lots of people make their final choices, so it’s important to make this decision in a timely manner.

4: Book the high priority vendors.  

The very best vendors offer a bespoke service are usually booked well over a year in advance even on weekdays. It’s really so important for you to think about your priorities.  For example, is amazing food your absolute priority?  Go to tastings with the catering company and narrow your choices down, then book your favourite.  Have you seen a photographer whose work you love? Book them now!  Or maybe a band or an expert DJ who you have seen which are way better than anyone else?  You know what to do!  Once vendors like these are booked, they are booked, so they will not be available for another wedding on the same day.

5: Look for that dress!

Now is the time for you to go and look for the dress as the really time sensitive stuff has been taken care of!  I don’t need to give you any advice on this as it is so much down to personal taste and style. And to be totally honest, I really don’t know anything about wedding dresses!!!

6: BONUS TIP!

January, February and March have a lot of venue open days and wedding fairs running. As the venue open days usually feature high quality suppliers trusted by venues to do an amazing job, and provide exceptional service, it’s essential to visit these. Wedding fairs are a somewhat less useful as they are mainly just a collection of exhibitors who pay for a stand, so they often don’t have the best suppliers exhibiting, and therefore quality is not guaranteed. You can find me at these amazing venue open days.

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How I can help you?

Find the best vendors for your big day

On this website, there is a lot of useful information for my clients and anyone planning the most important day of their lives.  For example, as I am an award winning full time professional Wedding DJ and Master of Ceremonies in this industry, I know a lot of other trusted wedding professionals.  These include caterers, florists, photographers, videographers. They also work to a very high standard, and give their clients excellent service.

Everything he did on the day and on the lead-up to it with the planning meetings really helped put our minds at ease and talking through the day with him (with how much time to allow for each aspect) really helped our organisation. Nothing was too much trouble and he pulled out all the stops in finding our music choices, however obscure. The table quiz and the Mr and Mrs game was great fun and a real highlight. Once the disco started the dance floor was never empty – the sign of a great DJ

Ben & Jen Woolger

Great venues

I have worked in many venues all over the South East and beyond.  So I do know many wedding venues, how they work, and what my clients love about them.  Please do get in touch for a chat about these, it will be a real pleasure to help and chat about your ideas.  I have listed my favourites for each county below, and have written useful reviews and wedding venue guides about these.  Check out the photos I have taken whilst working there:

Wedding venues in West Sussex, East Sussex, Surrey, London, Hampshire, Kent, Berkshire.

If you are specifically looking for a rustic, traditional or rural barn venue, I have a list of them for you to explore here.

I am also recommended by a selection of venues based on the quality of my work. You can find these here: venues which recommend Brian Mole.


Winner, wedding DJ of the year 2019 and wedding DJ of the year 2018, South East region, includes London, The Wedding Industry Awards.

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